Recently, I was asked if it was okay to
hex jinx someone as long as the qualifier “in perfect love and perfect trust” was added to it. Let me add here that, yes, said person was serious.
I was puzzled by this question, in as far as I can tell, the qualifier cancels out anything the
hex jinx was supposed to do. After all, one doesn’t generally hex jinx someone out of love or trust. I can see doing it in certain situations, maybe, but that’s because I believe morality is fluid and ethics are situational. For example, I’d hex jinx someone I loved to save them from a worse fate, and I think there are other situations out there that could call for it (it’s the smother-the-baby-to-save-a-village thing all over again). The person who asked the question, and was planning the hex jinx wasn’t in that type of situation, though. It was a case of “Get this stalker ASSHOLE away from me”, which is definitely hex jinx-worthy and, in my opinion, reason in and of itself that a qualifier shouldn’t be added on.
(I’d probably add a side of “may his testicles shrivel up and fall off” were it me, but it isn’t.)
To me, a
hex jinx with a caveat of love and trust is like a vegetarian soup having chicken broth as a base – the caveats turn them into something completely different than what they are supposed to be. If the intent of a hex jinx is to cause harm in some form, adding anything to mitigate the harm caused seems to me to be a waste of time. If the caveat is needed, why do the spell at all?
It’s another case of words mean things, really, along with a side of bet hedging. For something to be vegetarian, it needs to contain no products obtained through the death of an animal. Keeping kosher isn’t possible while eating bacon (although I’ve heard that Epically Un-kosher Chicken is amazing). Calling oneself a Christian doesn’t work if one doesn’t believe in the resurrection (at least, to my knowledge – please correct me if I’m wrong), and I wouldn’t be a FlameKeeper if I believed that personal salvation would get me into some wonderful after-life place.
Being aware of how things fit together, and making informed choices is an essential part of FlameKeeping. In order to improve, to promote balance, a FlameKeeper has to be able to own their actions and decisions, and be aware of the consequences that come from everything we do. Where consequences can be identified ahead of time, we need to mitigate them. Where they can’t, we need to be on the lookout for them and to step in where needed. This doesn’t mean being involved in every little thing that goes on in the Universe, but it does mean owning our own shit.
It means knowing what you want the outcome to be, and what is likely to occur, before throwing shit into the air while yelling after it, “Harm none!”
Note: After receiving a very helpful comment from a reader, I have struck through the word I was using (hex) and replaced it with a more appropriate one (jinx).